As I settle into the New Year, I’m thinking about my upcoming (and some overdue) health check-ups—teeth, eyes, and, of course, the annual visit to my OB/GYN. The latter prompted this week’s Whiny Wednesday topic:
OB/GYN office walls plastered with baby photos
Given that this is so often the first of many stops on the fertility trail, and given that so many of us don’t have children, but wanted them, doesn’t this seem a tad insensitive?
It’s Whiny Wednesday. What’s under your skin this week?
My old clinic had two waiting rooms. One for pregnant women, and one for not pregnant women. The secretary sat right by the from doors and triaged you either to the room on the left, or the room on the right. The room on the left was the non-pregnant room and there were zero baby pics and only fertility inspired leaflets for reading. The room on the right was the pregnant room and while I never got to go in there, I imagine it was plastered with baby pics and baby/mom leaflets/magazines. They did not post baby pictures on the hallways or in the exam rooms – just in the pregnancy waiting room. I thought that was really classy.
Of course, I still saw pregnant women there when I was coming in, or when I passed them in the hall. I still got triggered by them, but the division in the waiting rooms made ALL THE DIFFERENCE on those awful days and it was all so much more tolerable.
And as for a whine: If I hear ONE MORE PARENT lamenting how horrible their life is because they had to “entertain” their children over the holidays, I may just explode.
I really have to vent today. Last Sunday night all the friends “gather together” to celebrate late Christmas and New Year. That is to say: 45 minutes and more… talking about their children and grandchildren…. when finally one said: Analia, you have nothing to say ? ….and that was it for me…
I decided to withdraw from what hurts me. So I sent this email:
Dear Friends; I have been praying and meditating about my inability to conceive and my struggles to be understood. So I decided to withdraw temporarily from our friendship so I can continue healing. May the Lord bless you. You are and you will always be in my prayers.