Life Without Baby

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Whiny Wednesday: Unsubscribe Means Unsubscribe

Whiny_WednesdayI’ve been on a mission lately to cleanse my email inbox. It got to the point that I was getting so much junk email in my various accounts that I couldn’t even find the important emails. So, one morning I set off on and Unsubscribe mission and I’ve been going at it ever since.

For the most part, it’s going well, but I am finding some very persistent marketers who don’t seem to be able to comprehend why anyone would want to leave their precious mailing lists, so they send an email just to make sure I really want to leave. And I swear that, since I’ve unsubscribed, some companies have now flagged me as a live human being and have added me to a special list of people to be hounded ten-fold.

But slowly I’m getting a grip on my inbox. I can even see my actual email now!

It’s Whiny Wednesday. What’s irking you today?

Comments

  1. What’s irking me today? My husband. I’m fed up with him not pulling his weight. I lived in a dreamland that having a baby would force him to grow up and take on more responsibility. Since we’ve resigned to “Life Without Baby,” that dream is over. And I’m stuck being HIS mother for the rest of my life. Not the life I signed up for.

    • I too feel I’m already a mother – to my husband. I imagine it’s not nearly as gratifying as having a child. I’m right there with ya.

  2. oh boy. i wanted to put my whine up right after it happened yesterday. but alas…i waited! i was so irked by this conversation that i seriously thought i would blow! i am an office manager of a non profit with about 12 employees. yesterday, a new employee came up to me to visit at the end of his shift to get to know me after having seen me in town with my husband. of course….”so, do you have kids” was the question. and i said no. “you don’t have kids YET?” no. i said i do not have children. “what? you don’t want children? why wouldn’t you want to have kids? you don’t like them or something?” can we please just leave it at: i don’t have children and drop it? and then he leaves. nice, eh? *feel like wringing his neck*

    • Been there. I can only assume this co-worker is young and an idiot. I’ve had that happen to me and have replied very coldly, “no, I did want children, yes I do like children.” I get the quizzical expression, see the shocked look of realization on their face, offer no further explanation and watch them walk away looking embarrassed and feeling like the idiot they are. It took me a long time to be able to do it without feeling sad or the need to cry but when you do, you will feel great!

      • Unfortunately, the new co-worker is in his late 40’s. And I’m only in the beginning stages of acceptance, so at any mention, tears spring to my eyes. Thanks for letting me know that I haven’t been the only one in this situation though, Maria. It really sucks!

        • In his late 40s! Then he is much more than an idiot. I won’t say what because I don’t want to be offensive. Just be assured you will get to a strong place someday. Once you decide to move on, it happens faster than you think.

          • I totally get you….. Get this- we are counselors at where I work- yet when two guys talked about a co-worker’s newborn baby just a week after I returned from my recovering from hysterectomy, and I told them I was not ready to hear about babies, with tears in my eyes- one went “you can have a baby somehow” and the other said it was not a big deal. THEM being counselors, and in their 50’s…… speechless, really. So I totally GET you.

  3. My whine for the day – my husband told his friend we would go to a hockey game with them last night and bought the tickets without checking with me. I had made plans with 2 close friends and had to cancel to go this game. The wife of my husband’s friend is 6 months pregnant and it was my first time seeing her since I heard the news. I know how hard it is to be around a pregnant belly and I had planned on not seeing them until the baby was at least 1. It was really a difficult evening and I was teary eyed most of the night. The only good thing that came out of it was my husband kept checking to see if I was ok, and I did the same for him, and I really appreciate how much better we are at communicating about this. He also apologized for not thinking it through and agreed it was a bad idea. At the end of the game, we made the best of it but I would so much rather have been with my girlfriends last night.

    • ugh. that’s frustrating! at least hubby was tuned in to you and now knows to check before scheduling. it’s taken so long (and still continues to take so much extra effort) to communicate especially around these types of situations. and hockey…you don’t happen to be in minnesota, do you?

      • We are in NJ. Go Devils! But my husband is from MN so you know how they can be. I had to give him a pass because the strike just ended and he temporarily lost his mind without hockey.

  4. The snow here has been insane! Esso nearly had to sleep AT WORK last night because both of the highways on his route home were closed. He and some co-workers managed to find a way out, and started a convoy back to town in the blowing snow. He got home around 8 p.m. It’s not looking much better for tonight. (He works at a power generating facility, so it’s not like he can NOT go into work if the roads are open, as they were this morning).

  6. Migraine. And the in-laws are expected to visit in about half an hour. They insisted on driving my niece (who is coming to stay for a couple of nights), uninvited, rather than popping her on the train. They want to come because they want to see the deck my husband has just built. But it isn’t fully finished, and my FIL in particular can be extremely critical, which makes me very defensive. So with that and the migraine, I really am not in the mood to see them AT ALL.

  7. A staff from another office showed up for a team meeting- I didn’t know she was pregnant. WAY WAY pregnant. The first 20 minutes for the team meeting was about her pregnancy, folks sharing their pregnancy and labor stories, before re-focusing on the issues in meeting..and by end of meeting, folks resumed talking about babies- I left. Later on, a co-worker asked me why I left abruptly, and that people thought it rude. Oy vey.