One of the unanticipated benefits of starting this blog has been finding a community of women—each with her own unique story—all struggling with the same issues and trying to find acceptance in the life they’ve been dealt. It helped me to feel as if I wasn’t stumbling through this alone.
Maybe you’re like me and have dealt with infertility and never been pregnant, or perhaps you’ve suffered miscarriages or lost a late-term pregnancy. Maybe you’ve dealt with other health issues that forced you into a decision not to pursue motherhood, or perhaps you’re dusting yourself off after the blow of a failed adoption. Perhaps you’re one of those women who watched her dreams of motherhood dashed as the search for the right mate kept turning up the wrong man. Maybe you faced divorce or the death of a spouse, or a partner who had a change of heart about parenthood.
Each of us has our own story about how we came to find ourselves watching the window of opportunity for motherhood slowly close—and yet we share so many common issues. What I discovered through the blog was that, when I wrote openly about the tangled emotions and “crazy” thoughts I was having, others kept whispering “Me too.”
One of the voices saying “Me too” was Sue Fagalde Lick. Sue runs the blog Childless by Marriage and is the author of the book by the same title. She writes honestly about what happens when your partner is unable or unwilling to have babies.
Today, I’m visiting Sue’s blog to talk about an issue that concerns all of us, no matter how we got here: Aging Without Children. You can read my post on Sue’s blog here.
Great post, Lisa! I appreciate how you deal directly with the fear of growing old and having no support from biological children. Lots of good advice!
This is such an important issue, one that always seems to worry those of us without children. I’m so glad you’ve addressed it.