A friend sent this picture to me and it made me laugh out loud.
Then it got me wondering how this could work for those women (and it’s usually women) at baby showers and family gatherings who unwittingly assume that yours will be the next belly to be celebrated and adored. I haven’t come up with an appropriate equivalent yet, but I’m working on it.
It’s Whiny Wednesday, your chance to let off steam among friends. Feel free to vent at will.
That statement really bothered me when I couldn’t conceive. I am now 54 years young…
I’m at the age now that they don’t say it to me. But always wish I had a good comeback for it.
Thankfully, no one has said this exact thing to me…but I did have people tell me that I’d still be able to have kids into my 40s after I started dating my guy almost two years ago. I was 41 then. My answer was, “Maybe, maybe not. We are preparing ourselves for not being parents.” Typically that shut down the conversation – in a hurry. Some would query more and my indifference to having kids left some baffled and others seemed to get it after I explained what seems to me is basic reproductive health. Sometimes in life, timing is definitely everything. We absolutely did not want to rush enjoying the early phases of building a life together because of my fertility. Calmly being two ranked higher than frantically racing to be three.
No. It’s not.
Being diagnosed with infertility in my mid-20s (thanks a lot premature ovarian failure) I can relate…. people say it like having kids is just expected when they have no idea the struggles we face. At least I’ve leatned to cope with the pain that comes along with the comments and infertility in general.
This comment happened a lot to me as I struggled with infertility these last few years. I’m in my mid twenties and a flurry of pregnancies came among the people I know. This comment, as well as the “something in the water” joke hurt more than the people saying them ever knew.