Why is it that people have no problem asking, “So, why don’t you have kids,” or “How come you don’t like children?” or “Don’t you think not having kids is selfish?”
Could you imagine if mothers were asked the inverse? “So, why do you have kids?” “How come you like children?” or “Don’t you think having kids is selfish?” I wonder how many people would have an answer.
It’s Whiny Wednesday. What’s your gripe this week?
I love this turn around.I’ve often thought about it in terms of nosiness about conception. I mean, we don’t ask if someone’s child was conceived in the back seat of a car after a drunken teenage party, do we? So why do people think it’s okay to ask about IVF, etc? lol
I’ve also freely admitted that I wanted to have children for largely selfish reasons, and that every reason I hear parents or wannabe parents give for having children is one that is about them at heart, not about the children they want to bring into the world. So I’m all for turning questions back on others!
Right on! Hey I wish I could give them some answer like: “I wasn’t obsessed with creating a mini me but maybe you and your husband were. I think your therapist would have a heyday on this God complex you have! Heaven only help your kids!!”
Oh Susan, that gave me a really great giggle!! – lol thanks!
Oh, this is brilliant. 🙂 I’ve often thought how unfair it was that we get quizzed about why we don’t have kids, and how seldom parents get asked to justify why they HAD kids.