You’ve probably noticed that there are triggers all around—at the mall, in the mail, on TV, in the streets. So this week’s Whiny Wednesday topic is this:
Being caught in public by surprise feelings of loss or grief
Whine away, my friends.
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filling the silence in the motherhood discussion
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…and I cry and I just don’t care if somebody is looking at me. I just don’t care.
I was caught off guard in a team meeting at work several years ago when our VP announced that one of our colleagues — who was about 5-6 months pregnant — had sadly lost her baby. There were gasps all round — the loudest of them being mine. I dropped my head to the table & started hyperventilating. And I stayed that way for the rest of the meeting (which thankfully was not much longer). I’m sure some people were wondering “what the…??” — not many had been around when I lost my baby, years earlier. I knew I was making a “scene,” and I probably should have just gotten up and left, but it was like I was frozen.
I heard everyone leaving & then I felt someone’s arms going round me…. two wonderful women who both knew my story & why I was so upset. I talked to this woman’s boss later on & passed along the name of the support group that had helped dh & me so much. I believe she did eventually have another baby.
I think maybe an email announcement might have been better than dropping that particular bombshell into a meeting…??