My whine today is that, yesterday in the middle of the day, I realized I had completely forgotten to do a Whiny Wednesday post!
I quickly dashed one out and was about to post it when I realized: It’s only Tuesday.
I seriously think it’s time to take a long look at my commitments and say farewell to a couple of things (not this site, of course.) Think I’ll start with housework. š
So, despite my total confusion, today IS Whiny Wednesday. (It’s also my 10-year wedding anniversary, which I did NOT forget, thank goodness.)
What’s your whine today?
I’m struggling with the emotions resulting from a couple “casual” friends who are pregnant. I’m very happy for them, and enjoy seeing their Facebook posts etc. But there is also that niggling pain every time I see the posts, the pain of what could have been for me.
I understand how you feel. My sister-in-law just announced her pregnancy and I am very happy for her and her husband but I have had a few “whiny moments”. It has been a roller coaster ride for them to get pregnant. I decided last month that it was time to step off the roller coaster and I have some good days and bad days. Anyway just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Hope you have a great day!
I attended a professional development seminar at work yesterday taught by a female instructor. She started the program by telling us about herself and that she has 3 children and is so tired. She asked everyone in the room to say something about themselves, and every person announced how many children and grandchildren they had and it became a running joke over who should feel more tired. Even though the seminar was supposed to be about managing work conflicts, the instructor used stories about her children as examples of difficult behavior. I counted 10 children stories in less than 2 hours. I could go on but I won’t. We were required to provide written comments about the class, and I complained about this and said — not everyone has or can have children. Next time, use examples that are related to the actual work we do. It didn’t make me upset but I can’t believe how stupid some people can be.
Oh my gosh that is terrible, Maria!!! I was in a meeting like that once also and felt so uncomfortable. When it was my turn, I remember saying to myself keep it real and say something to get them to change the topic so I said “Hi I am Megan, I have a husband, lots of chickens, and love to brew beer” … That did the trick, the few guys in the meeting jumped on that path and it helped a bit. I am so sorry it is a terrible feeling!!!
I wish I had thought to do that. I was the 2nd person to introduce myself so I didn’t even think of it. It turned into a mommy thing after I introduced myself. Live and learn, next time!
My whine could be long, so not to bore anyone, I’ll sum it up! For a yr. my husband and I have had my cousin’s wife and their 4.5 yr old daughter love with is while my cousin is away for 2 yrs. she moved out a week ago, thank God. We have been acting like parents, helping with school, baths, fun, sickness, not having her daddy around, ect for this past yr. the first weekend they moved out, I watched my niece for the Friday/Saturday. This has been a regular since she lives with us. However, when asked this past weekend if she needed to look for someone to watch my neice Fri/Sat I told her that one of the perks of NOT having children is to not have the responsibility of weekend plans. I told her that I needed and wanted to work on my marriage that has been disrupted for the past yr helping out 24/7. She is pissed and told me that the reason that her and my niece stayed was because of the help… she has no regards as to how this has been for my hubs and I!! For that, I want to smack her upside the head?!? Really?! But instead, I hold my ground and whine about it š
Good for you for standing your ground!! It’s one thing to sit on the weekend occasionally, but not as a regular thing.
I am busy writing up close out reports since my job is finishing up at the end of the month. I am cross-eyed from staring at the computer. This role isn’t continuing so I am torn between it being a waste of time or a template for someone else if a similar role is created in the future.
I just want to lie on the floor with the dog, eat some ice cream, relax, and then panic about finding a new job.
Happy Anniversary!
I do have a whine this week. I’m having a gynaecological issue at the moment, when I thought I wouldn’t have any more of that, will end up having surgery, and it’s all causing a few flashbacks to the days of ectopic pregnancies. And I thought now I was in my 50s I was over that. Not quite yet. Sigh!
I am just so sick of it all right now. People around me are taking sick leave for exhaustion, cancelling meetings because other stuff is seemingly more important, not answering email because they are expecting or just had babies, piling projects on top of me but then when it’s their turn to contribute they don’t seem to find even 5 minutes for the project and now my band mate has emailed everybody that she hasn’t ‘the time nor the energy’ to bake the cake she promised for the weekend and could somebody else please do it. I just want to scream.
Maria ,
I understand b/c I work with two women and all they talk about is their children. It is sickening and I try to change the subject but they just go back to the same ole thing. As I listen to their stories all I can think about is the loss I feel. Some days I just want to tell them to shut up!! The pain sometimes is bone crushing but all I can do is put one foot in front of the other. Thank goodness there are others who can identify with my feelings.
Sherry, that must be so painful. But you know what my immediate thought was? That their lives otherwise must be so boring, their imaginations and intellects so limited, that all they can talk about is their children. My friends and sisters with children would complain about women like that too.
My easy whiny Wednesday is I am always forgetting my user name and password for this site because I never comment but live to read and then when I want to comment my brain has to work overtime
My more difficult whine is catty women .
I’m new here… well, new to posting. I have a whine… my husband and I do not have children (not by choice). I’ve always been close to my brother, but his wife has become really awful to be around. She is just mean, really. Here is some background info: they have a daughter who arrived, by surprise, while we were in our 2nd round of IVF. After, initially having my own private meltdown, I came to feel that she was sort of an answer to my prayers… a baby in our family to love and enjoy. Like I mentioned, I have always been close to my brother… I’m home, they are both working… so the little one spent lots of time at my place. I was and am well aware of who her parents are… I planned to be the very best aunt a kid could have. Over the years, apparently, my sister-in-law didn’t see it that way and became jealous of the closeness her daughter and I shared. The six year old niece actually told me that her mother said that I was trying to take her away! Although it didn’t bother her enough to find other arrangements for the kids care (esp since I was doing it for free… everyday/all day). Anyway, over the years, my sister in law has become secretly mean. She is the kind of person who is really good at making someone feel like they are small and unimportant. She ignores my existence… she, honestly, will say hello to everyone, in a room, except me! She isn’t obvious though, unless you’re looking for it. I don’t know… I just can’t stand her! Here is my whine… My niece is now going on 15 and she is acting the same way her mother does toward me now! I don’t get it… I really tried to be a good aunt… my heart is breaking (again).
I just read your post. I struggle to find words that I think may be helpful or make you feel better. The effort to find balance in being a good aunt can be so difficult. I wish you all the best as you navigate this journey. You may find that your niece renews your relationship with you after or even while she is navigating the angst of adolescence. As for your sister-in-law, I have no kind words for her. Good luck and I hope that during this diificult time you find peace in knowing that what you have done for them is valuable and so are you.