Some time ago, Maybe Lady Liz wrote a brilliant guest post on this site about friends posting pregnancy announcements on Facebook, only to add that they were “accidents.” I thought it would be a great topic for this week:
“Accidental” pregnancies
You can read Liz’s original post here. Just be advised if you decide to click through from the post to her blog that it is no longer about not having children, as Liz is now a mom.
I’m very sorry,but anyone over the age of 16,can’t in all seriousness,claim that a pregnancy was an accident.
A woman who has been having sex and getting her periods for years,DEFINITELY can’t claim accident, neither can women who have had one or more kids already.
I have 2 “friends” who got pregnant ‘by accident’ in the last year.The one friend has only been with her boyfriend for a year,and it is an abusive/drama filled relationship.I don’t get along with her other half,and after being completely honest with her that I cannot be friends with him anymore (after some very ugly encounters), she yelled at me and said I was only doing this because I can’t have children and am jealous of her pregnancy.After that, no more friendship.
With friends like that, who needs enemies. Good riddance
I agree with Ani. I have a friend that I’ve known since the day she was born. She is very devoted to her faith and doesn’t use any contraception. But baby number 4 and babies number 5 and 6 (twins) were “not planned”!
WHATEVER!!!
If your going to have sex and not use any contraception then you don’t get to say that your children weren’t planned.
My whine today is that my sister announced the news of her daughter-in-law’s pregnancy to me by a group text. I didn’t have my phone with me and got home to see 32 messages about it. I am happy for her and my nephew and his wife. And I am in a much better place about my inability to have children. But you would think after all this time, she would at least call me to tell me the news before everyone else. When I responded with a text, she fired off 6 more about her excitement. I give myself permission to distance myself from her as she is incapable of showing me any compassion.
Fortunately, as I’m now in my 50s, I don’t get hit with that any more. I was always amused by the people who would say, “well, we weren’t using contraception, but we weren’t trying.” Sheesh!