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Whiny Wednesday: Mother’s Day Aftermath

I hope you made it through the past weekend relatively unscathed. So, do tell:

How did Mother’s Day go for you?

How did you handle it? How did it go? What went well? What didn’t? Let us know the good, the bad, and the flat-out ugly.

 

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  1. Not a great weekend, I’m afraid. I already did some bitching in my own blog 😉 but since you asked…! 😉

    * Dh took his 89-year-old dad to a specialist on Friday. The news was not good. Dh went back to see him yesterday, and was shocked by how much he’d deteriorated in just a few days’ time. 🙁
    * We spent Saturday afternoon taking dh’s aunt around to visit the relatives in not just one, not just two, but THREE cemeteries spread across the city… how very cheerful (not)!!
    * Spent Sunday afternoon at the movies, which we normally love — but we went to see “The Avengers: Infinity War.” Mild spoiler alert: I’d heard some buzz, but I was NOT prepared for what a downer the ending was. Not what I needed!!
    * Came home and watched “The Handmaid’s Tale” on TV — more fun! (not!)
    * Got quite weepy while taking a quick scroll through my social media feeds.
    * Aunt Flo arrived late Monday, which might explain some of the weepiness. 😉 * * (Did I mention I am 57 years old, and she is STILL VISITING ME??!!)
    * I thought I was done with everything by Monday — but in every store I went into, smiling clerks kept asking me, “Did you have a good weekend??” (I never get asked that any other Monday…!)

    There WAS some good stuff:
    * Went to a surprise birthday party for Oldest Nephew’s wife on Saturday night, and had a good time.
    * Watched the hockey game while we were there. (And my team won. 🙂 )

    Glad it’s all over…!!

    • Oh, loribeth61, what a weekend. I’m so sorry to hear about your DH’s dad. And the cemetery tour!
      I also the Avengers movie and almost asked for my money back! This weekend we saw Ready Player One, which I didn’t expect to enjoy, but it ended up being a very fun movie if you need cheering up.

  2. Lingered in bed, which was nice, then hubby said, “Let’s go out to lunch!” Okay! We were getting ready when I remembered, “We can’t go to any restaurants today, it’s Mother’s Day.” He thought about it for a second, then suggested we walk to a local beer pub, where there wasn’t much chance of the dressed up, flowery brunches happening. The minute we walked in the door, the owner came up to greet us. “Wait…are you a mom?” (here it comes) “No….but I do mother my husband.” The guy threw back his head and laughed. “That more than counts!” So, it could have been awful, there was a little sting, but most of all it was okay. I did spend the rest of the day relaxing at home.

    • We also went out for breakfast without thinking. The place was full of families and they were, of course, handing out flowers to the moms. I kept my head down.

  3. Mine was fantastic, keep in mind I not only do not have children but I have no Mom nor a husband and so God has given me a choice to hide all weekend by myself and be miserable or to be involved and be Happy.
    I pick the second choice also keep in mind I am 63 and have many miles of childlessness behind me and since I lost my husband I am realizing life is too short to be miserable.
    Anyways our wonderful Pastor had a Panel of four women on stage,
    a grandmother, a Mom who has empty nest, a young Mom, and me with no children and we all talked about what God has done for us and I was able to tell about all we went through to have children and how God helped me each step of the way.
    Then after church ALL women got a rose and I was invited to celebrate with a family in the church and I got two skiens of yarn. It was a wonderful day.
    Now in my area of the US we are very open, childless women dont take offence to Mothers Day greetings, childless women love to receive Mothers Day cards, and churches recognize ALL women over 18.
    So you can see why Mothers Day is not as bad for me as it used to be.
    I have a wonderful Pastor for being so open to all phases of womanhood

    • Lenita, I love your positive attitude. I also appreciate you acknowledging that you “have many miles of childlessness behind you” and that it wasn’t always so easy. 😐

  4. Mother’s Day was probably the worst day I have ever had. I spent the day in the couch in pain and tears because the miscarriage had started. I felt like a prisoner. I couldn’t go on social media because all you see are the posts of mothers and children enjoying a nice wonderful day. I was happy it was miserable out and rainy because that was my mood. My husband is an amazing person and was with me all day. He did step out for a few hours to go see his mother. She understood why I didn’t go and my mother understood also. My birthday is in two weeks and I was not looking forward to it at all a few months back because I was due on my birthday! I lost that pregnancy in October. I then got excited because we got pregnant again in again in February. My doctor said I had a 96% chance this baby would make it. My dreams of motherhood were shattered on May 10th. At 10.5 weeks pregnant, the heart just stopped. I need to come to the realization that I will never be a mom. After 4 miscarriages, I am done.

    • Dear Michelle,
      I am so sorry for your losses and that they were made even worse by the timing. I’m glad you took care of yourself, though, and put your own needs first. And that your husband and mothers understood.
      Sending big hugs to you.
      Lisa

  6. I’ve also blogged about it. My main issue (apart from the mother and baby next to us on Saturday night at a quiet French restaurant – where we specifically went a day early to avoid mothers and families) was on Monday morning my time. M Day was in full swing in the US, and my Fb feed was full of it. Queue rolling eyes! Time zones mean that M Day always lasts two days for me.

  7. Here (Sweden) it’s celebrated on the last Sunday of may, so it’s not over yet.

    And my partner has two kids, one turned 22 yesterday, the other turns 25 a week later and the Friday after that – the Friday before mother’s day – we are going to the boys mother to celebrate their birthdays – and mother’s day – with a barbecue.
    Won’t it be great!

  8. I feel like I’ve been on edge snapping at people from just before Mother’s Day to now. Almost got kicked out of a local Facebook review group for the moderator telling me my response was snooty and to stop replying if I disagree. The funny thing is it was a review over a commercial, nothing to do with anything local. The poster was mad at the car company for not showing and talking about the actress being pg. I told her just because she’s pg doesn’t mean every job she does has to highlight it and perhaps to make her happy the car company could have her giving birth in the mini van on the side of the road for the next commercial.

    • Jenn,
      I’m sorry, I know this isn’t funny, but your response to the reviewer made me laugh out loud.

      • I thought my response was funny also. Glad someone else enjoys my humor besides myself.

  9. I spend the whole day watching movies, then this one scene where a father was singing to his daughter, and it broke my heart because I know my husband could have been a better father compared to his brothers.

    I’m just glad that it’s over. Until next mother’s day.