Thanks to those of you who suggested Whiny Wednesday topics. If there’s something we haven’t covered yet, feel free to drop me a line.
This week’s whiny topic is:
“This happened because I am not worthy of being a mother .”
I think this falls into the same category as “I must have done something to deserve this” and “God/the Universe/fate must have other plans for me.”
Have you had these thoughts? Did you believe them?
As always, other whines are welcome. It is Whiny Wednesday after all.
Sometimes this thought still comes to my mind. But, the simple fact is that there are a lot of horrible people out there who still become mothers. Infertility and childlessness have really affected my world view. I now believe that luck is simply random. I don’t see any bigger meaning behind anything. Good and bad things happen to both good and bad people. That’s not to say that our actions and decisions don’t have consequences, but there is still randomness that can affect those consequences.
I would go so far as to say MANY of the most ill-qualified are fertile as bunnies (not just teenagers but addicts etc) . And many women who would be good mums? No kids. People tell me ALL the time I would be a good mom. Doesn’t make things better. Or worse.
This is not related to the topic or it might be…. but I have to be sincere today; I have to take this out of my chest !
Yesterday, I heard a woman say: “I hated being pregnant because of morning sickness and all that…”
I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want other women to give me advice or counseling, which I don’t need.
Thank you so much for reading my words. It means a lot to me!
I’m sorry you had to hear those words… It’s difficult when others don’t understand their blessings. Thank goodness we have a tribe of women here who get it!
I can relate, and as someone who never found the right person to have a family with, I do feel unworthy…like no one decent ever loved me enough to have a family with me.
I’m so sorry, DN. You are most definitely worthy of love…
DN, that’s exactly what happened to me and how I feel about it.
I’m sorry for us having to go through those years not finding a partner, and even more sorry for how it affected our sense of self respect.
Boy this one can still grab me. God knows what he or she is doing or God has a different plan for me. These words are far from comforting.I agreewith the randomness of things .
But at work yesterday I got the we adopted my great niece and it will be finalized this year That one hit me since we did try to adopt and the biological mother wa Ted the child back.its been tougher lately with menopause ring here post operativy we are all worthy of love . ThNks for u detest fk g with no judgement