I love the Internet for the breadth and depth of information it provides, and for the opportunity to read so many varying opinions on one subject. But sometimes I just have to walk away.
Case in point, I was doing research for a post and came across the following comment on an article:
“I take care of my parents. My children will take care of me. You want to force my children to take care of you too, meanwhile you arrogantly and selfishly live a much richer life style. Frankly, every GINK I’ve met was an arrogant, self-righteous, elitist. You should apologize for not adding to the future of our race.”
So after I ranted to myself about not expecting anyone else’s kids to take care of me, how our race of almost 7 billion people doesn’t need much adding to, and how narrow-minded this woman was to tar us all with the same “arrogant, self-righteous, elitist” brush, I stomped off and took a long, hot shower.
This woman was clearly on a mission (she posted about half a dozen comments to the same article) and I can’t believe I let her anger get under my skin.
It’s Whiny Wednesday. What’s under your skin today?
Yes so annoying when women have the nerve to say to childless woman that we are selfish 🙁 There could be different reasons why some women dont have or want kids,but to brand us selfish is pretty rich considering that wanting a child of your own in itself is “Selfish” I have worked in a personal care home now for 20 years and let me tell you how many residents have children that NEVER come to see them,so I don’t believe the notion that having children will guarantee that they will look after you when you are old and in need of care… Rant Over 🙂
This this this! Agree
I pity her.
I pity her kids.
Wow! I’d like to say that I can’t believe the arrogance of the writer, but sadly I can. It’s almost as if becoming parents makes people so happy that they were blessed that they forget there are others who weren’t. And those of us who wanted children and never got to have them, aren’t selfish. We are people who are hurting and mourning and trying to figure out our lives like everyone else. Only we have to make a different life than the one we expected and hoped and prayed for. And we have to come to come to come to terms with being alone as we get older. I am married, but I am scared of getting older without children and we have no nieces or nephews. Believe me I am not selfish and I definitely do not feel blessed without children. I feel like I’ve been cheated out of my hopes and dreams every day of my life.
I share these fears, I think many of us do. We should organize a commune and take care of each other as we age.
I think sometime I feel like because we don’t have kids we are in charge of setting social things up, like we don’t have anything else to do. Other people just don’t understand childlessness by choice or circumstance.
I have never understood this. People have children because they want to have children. I went through hell and back with infertility treatments because I wanted a child. Doing something because you want something out of it is by definition a selfish act.
I also hate the idea that someone doing everything to care for their child makes them unselfish and giving in a way no one else can be. Sorry, but taking care of your own child is not a great unselfish act. It is actually your responsibility. If you want to do something selfless, put your time and energy into some random child that needs it.
Rant over!
One more thing . . . Those of us making big incomes without the expense of children are also paying much more in taxes to pay to educate yours. We are also more likely to give larger amounts of money plus time to charities. Lastly, because we do not have children to depend on, we are more likely to ensure we are financially capable of surviving in our old age instead of burdening someone else.
I wonder why the woman whose post was quoted in the blog was so driven to post so many comments. My guess is that she has an acquaintance, friend or family member that she thinks has it better than she does and that she is perhaps envious and therefore her comments.