Although my relationship with Mr. Fab survived our infertility, Valentine’s Day has become another holiday that’s lost its luster. For the most part, we ignore it.
I know it can be a difficult day (or week) for many of you, so even though it’s a little late, this week’s Whiny Wednesday topic is:
Valentine’s Day
And, by the way, if you have any tips for how you approach this day, please share it here for readers who might be struggling.
My husband and I decided when we were dating to not celebrate Valentine’s Day because yesterday was my husband bday and mine is in two weeks. Everytime we go out it is a date. It is always just the two of us. 🙂
This is a hard one for me. My hubby and I are still together after 3 years of deciding not to go through with treatment. However, we have some deep scars from our infertility. We are still working through them. I’m not sure if we will make it. When we fight there is a lot of resentment and pain. It’s strange grieving something that affected us so differently. I feel like I’ve pushed into the pain and he has avoided it. I’m not sure how to go forward when he wants to ignore it. Anyway, thanks for listening. This post and place helps me not feel so alone.
Hi Anne – so sorry you are suffering and you are not sure how you will get through. I suffered similarly – hubby and I bickered and fought a lot after our 6th failed treatment (we both spoke the word divorce). Its so hard – you are both grieving and finding a way through. What helped for me, I went to a counselor – I managed to persuade my husband to join me on the first session and it was the start of us communicating better and understanding each other. I also went on a mindfulness course and “better communications course” – I was resentful that I felt I was doing all the work! However, in time it did help and we were able to find a way back to each other. You are definitely not alone. Sending you cyber hugs.
We usually stay in and have a nice meal since we go out to dinner often and I don’t want to deal with the Valentine’s crowds. Plus our wedding Anniversary is next month so we go out for a fancy dinner for that. We do get each other small gifts and I usually make us chocolate covered strawberries. My friends and I also do a Galentine’s get together and that will be Sunday.
I rather do not talk…i am sorry
Here in Sweden the day is “inherited” and not a long tradition, so most people take it lightly.
My hubby and I raise our coffee cups in the morning and say “cheers on Valentine’s day” to each other and that’s it.
So sorry you all are finding it difficult
My situation is my wonderful husband of 39 years is in Heaven so I am a childless widow.
Valentines day can be as difficult as you make it to be.
I exchange gifts with a friend, enjoy a party at the Gym, buy a flower for a new widow, and take a gift to an elderly widow
Please ladies enjoy your Valentines while you still have them