Whiny Wednesday has become such a favorite on the blog and I know that many of you look forward to the chance to have a good rant about what’s on your mind.
For those of you who are new to Life Without Baby or maybe not sure what this Whiny Wednesday thing is all about, I thought an brief explanation might be in order.
Whiny Wednesday came about because many of us felt we were going through our respective journeys alone and that our friends and family often didn’t understand how much we were hurting. Many readers said felt they felt they had to put on a brave face around other people and that the things they wanted to talk about sometimes felt like “whining.”
So, Whiny Wednesday was created as the place where, once a week, you can come and vent about whatever’s on your mind, especially the things you feel you can’t say in-person around others. Most weeks I post a topic for discussion, but the comments are always open for griping about whatever happens to be on your mind.
So, now you know what it’s all about, feel free the have a really good whine this week.
The social media graduations. I always remember to stay away for Mother’s Day but forget about all the graduations and family pictures. I was away for Mother’s Day on vacation in Montreal with my husband and thought I dodged the Mother’s day bullet but when I came back it was here waiting for me.my mother in law passed away a few months ago who was more maternal with me and my mother is showing signs of dementia. I t has been really stressful. ISO I guess it’s no surprise thegriwf waited for me to return and it needed to be dealt with. This year a bit worse than others . Hugs to people who understand.
… I don’t like people telling me you know what you have to do… You can always adopt …still bothers me..
Oh yes, why don’t you adopt, I know XXX did. Why haven’t you tried X fertility treatment? My friend was infertile but then X happened and the stork arrived. My personal pet peeve- Oh well at least you get good holidays!!!
As a teacher, I get the double whammy of holiday jibes…
I am mostly at peace with my life and recognize that my path is different.
BUT recently I have found myself really thinking about my friendships. I have recently moved house and got a puppy so invited friends over to see- kids included. To cut a long story short the house was trashed, myself and my husband ignored in favour of baby talk and raisins, effectively dog poison left all over the floor. I just wonder why the rules are so different for us….. whine over.
Ugh. Just read the quote “when you become a mother, you become a sister”
(E.g sisterhood of moms)
Ugh. Made me feel so out of the club
Someone I work with very closely just announced she’s 6 week pregnant:-(
I’m in the bathroom at work trying not to cry and it feels like my guts just fell out. It’s not fair.
My heart is beating so fat. Now I have to go spend the whole day with her
I’m so sorry. Been there done that more times than I want to remember! Only now my coworkers are on maternity leave. Guess I’ll be eating lunch in my car when they all come back.
My time at a very difficult work situation in which I was constantly reminded of my grief finally ended, and I was enjoying a couple weeks of time in which I felt happy for the first time in forever, and hardly thought about kids at all. Then yesterday I went to a fitness class at my gym, and the other women were talking about some mutual friend who just had a kid, and how “perfect” he is, and how adorable, and how in love the mom is, etc. All my grief came back… Oh well… it was nice while it lasted.
Hi Emily – this is so upsetting, having your “go to place” invaded too. I do recall the day hubby and I knocked coffee and biscuit trips on the head because Costa became overrun with noisy children and endless prams and babies. We never rejoined the coffee treat together – some time later we bought our own coffee maker (we occasionally have lunch and coffee out – providing there are not too many mums there). I also recall a trip to the gym last year and our spin instructor made an announcement. I gave it a couple of weeks and stopped going (knowing she would go on about it at every opportunity). I picked a different class until she left (my husband carried on with the class and told me i was right to avoid it)! I went back when a new instructor came in – she’s older (means nothing I know, I’m still a bit on edge for an announcement) but she is well into her fitness and we get regular conversations about her marathon running. The side conversations I’m getting better at tuning out and thinking about my plans. Its really tough though and want you to know to do what you need to do to get through. You’ll get some peaceful and happy moments again – thinking of you and everyone posting. The ripples of the losses from missing out on motherhood sometimes feel like they go on forever…