One of the big changes I’ve seen since starting this site almost ten years ago is that the topics of infertility and childlessness are being brought out from behind closed doors and are being discussed in more public forums.
Whereas once I felt as if I was the only person talking openly about this, I’ve since found an incredible network of fellow bloggers and authors writing very intimately about their stories. I’ve also received several requests to complete surveys from researchers who are exploring the effects and issues of unplanned childlessness.
Women in the public eye are finally being open about miscarriage and infertility. It feels like a huge step forward to have such visible public figure speaks openly about a subject which has been so taboo.
In your corner of the world, you may still be feeling that NO ONE is talking about this, that no one understands what you’re going through, and even your closest confidants don’t want to talk about it. Sadly, I think this is still true for most of us. But the tide is turning, and the more we talk about this topic and the more we venture out and start these conversations, the less taboo it will become.
Even if you’re not ready (or feel as if you will never be ready) to start your own campaign for understanding, you’re already part of this quiet revolution. You’re here, you’re talking about your experience with others, you’re sharing comfort and encouraging other readers. Even if you’re doing all of this anonymously and even if you’re coming here in secret to contribute to these conversations, you are part of the change that’s coming.
This issue is never going to go away, in fact I believe that our segment of the population will only continue to grow (but that’s another post for another day), but perhaps in the future, our sisters who need help will be able to pick up a leaflet from their doctors or walk into a local support group or sit down with a friend over coffee and feel comfortable talking openly about what it feels to not to have the children you wanted.
Thanks Lisa – this is a great post. I still feel invisible in my immediate circle, but truly hope the day will come when eyes are opened to the difficulties around the infertility taboo. Leaflets in the GP office would be a massive step forward. Thanks for this site – its truly sustained me through my most difficult 6 years (CTT) and helps me realize I am part of this conversation!
Love this post, Lisa! There’s obviously still lots of room for improvement 😉 but those of us who have been around for a while know how far we’ve come over the past 10 years or so. You & your blog & books have been a big part of this quiet revolution — thank you!
Thanks loribeth,
I’m really encouraged to see new people speaking out and telling their (our) stories. You were a trailblazer. 🙂