Today is Whiny Wednesday.
It’s the day you don’t have to be “nice” and keep your grumbles to yourself. If you have a gripe, here’s the place to get it off your chest.
Whine on!
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“You never know” = the words I can’t stand to hear. YES I DO KNOW. I KNOW EXACTLY. JUST SHUT UP ALREADY.
“But you would have been such a great mom.” Not helping!
Oh, I just thought of another one: All those lame “Share if you love your son/daughter” posts on Facebook. REALLY??!!!? Gee thanks for sharing, you’ve really confirmed you’re a great mother now. What I’m thinking when I read these: Oh great another idiot.
Oooh, Kelly, you’re on a roll! When I see those (and the “I love my husband, etc.,” I think Shouldn’t you be telling him/them instead of all your “friends” on FB?
Kathleen, I agree, “You would have been a great mom”, is one of the most aggravating things people say. Implying what, that I’ve missed my true calling in life? Sometimes I think that one of the reasons people say that is, since I’m NOT a mom, I have more ‘caretaking’ time to devote to my students, friends, and family. Society needs people like us just as much – – –
My favorites are
1. “Have you thought about adoptions?”… OF COURSE I have thought about it!!! – idiot!!!
2. “Just adopt”… to which I respond.. “It’s not like ordering a pizza, ya know…” – that response usually shuts them down – try it… it works… it is a bit smart-a** but it works!
3. “The Lord has other plans for you”… well, thanks, he didn’t answer my life-long prayer because he has “other plans”… thanks – that’s so helpful!
Whew, that felt good! Needed that today!! – Thanks Ladies! xoxo
I’ve found that most of the time smart-a comebacks work best. Lol! I like the pizza thing!
Love the pizza line! Am going to use that one.
I like the pizza thing too! I am so afraid of hurting people’s feelings though. Which is strange because it doesn’t seem like they care.
I recently saw someone complaining about people posting selfies on fb – and her suggestion was to post pics people actually want to see, like your children! No, I’m sorry, a lot of us really don’t care to have our facebooks blown up with documentaries of your children’s lives, pictures, school grades, outfits etc. I’m friends with u, not ur kids. Ugh!!
I have a few friends who live away from most of their family and old friends, and about 95% of the pics they post are of their kids. And they do it quite regularly. I get it. It’s a chance for grandma and the aunts to see their niece/nephew/grandchild. Here is my problem with what the person said about the “selfies”. I have also read something similar. First of all, I had to look up what they meant by “selfies”. It is “their” facebook page. If they want to post pics of themselves, why should anyone judge? I have heard similar comments about people who post pics of their food. So what? Who told this person that everyone wants to see pics of everyone else’s kids? Occasionally, maybe, sure, but certainly not all the time. For the same reason, I don’t get the whole family Christmas card thing. I think it is nice for family members. But, I don’t think most people know what the hell to do with a bunch of those pics and maybe feel bad about tossing them in the trash. It’s not like everyone that gets one is going to put it in a frame or album. I have friends whose political views I could not care less about. I sometimes hide their posts (if it is particularly offensive), but I don’t usually even comment anymore. These are old friends and over time I guess we grew quite a part in how we look at the world. I must be getting older, because while I’ll still “roll my eyes”, I don’t let most of it get to me.
“Now that you have given up, that’s when it happens!”That’s what I get all the time.. Drives me nuts.
“Maybe if you lost some weight…” Yes, mother-in-law, I’ve already explained to you how your son and I are genetic disasters when it comes to fertility, but I’m sure you just hit the nail on the head. Thank you.
What I’m thinking when someone says this (and it happens a lot): I’m going to punch you. What I actually say: Hmmmm…. alright I’m going to get something to eat now, you want some tea? (you’re an idiot).
Hmmm. Perhaps I should stop now, I seem to be getting feistier and not in a good way…
This made my morning! All of you ladies are correct and so nice to have us all understand! Love the pizza line and the adopt line… great Wednesday whines!
My hairdresser was complaining to me the other day about her ex-husband’s new wife and how she hasn’t made an effort to be close to their kids. She said to me, “She doesn’t have kids, so she doesn’t get it.”
I don’t have kids, but I have made a HUGE effort to have a relationship with my husband’s daughter, partly because I can’t have kids of my own, but mostly because she’s amazing and I love her!
This idiotic line was so dismissive, as though popping out a kid automatically makes people “get it”.
Mary, argh!! It’s such a trite comment “you don’t understand if you don’t have kids.” Last week I wrote a long post about that!!
I’m loving the comments today. I hate all of those comments including:
“Once you stop trying, then you’ll get pregnant.”
If we had gotten pregnant, we wouldn’t have had to TRY!!!
My whine: as if November didn’t suck enough (due date month from 1998, peak period at work, etc. etc.), there’s a baby shower at work tomorrow. Lord grant me patience. :p
Well, I don’t really have cause to whine, as my whine from a few weeks ago – that we thought we’d lost our health insurance – has been resolved. Yay. But then my laptop’s wifi has died, so I’m whining about that. And in the midst of this, I’m having to do all the Christmas shopping for all our nieces and nephews. For some reason it particularly bugs me buying for all my husband’s siblings children (probably because I never get any thanks). I love buying for my sister’s child.