Tomorrow is Halloween, which for many of us means streams of cute children knocking on our front doors.
Love it or hate it; it’s hard to avoid it. So the discussion topic for this week is:
How do you handle this difficult holiday?
As it’s Whiny Wednesday, there’s room for your gripes here, too.
HATE IT. Typically the hubby and I will lock up the house and go out to dinner with friends. It still hurts, but at least you don’t have the knife twisted in your gut every time there is a knock at the door.
It has been the most difficult holiday to deal with for me. We have done many things from, pretending we were not home, turning off the lights, going out for dinner , or visiting friends. My husband thinks differently about it than I do. I have bought candy, and he gives it out. I usually make sure the cat doesn’t run away out the door. I loved it as a kid, but infertility changed this one for me. Each year it gets a little easier,but it still stings some. . Much love and hugs to my fellow travelers on this journey
My husband and I dress up and go out to get discounted food at a favorite restaurant, and then go to the local mall. It’s kind of like an annual date night. We’ve done this for the past four years, and really enjoy it. I never got to celebrate Halloween as a kid, so it’s kind of my chance to be a kid again and play dress up (I make our costumes myself). This is the first year we’re doing it since we officially gave up trying for kids, so I wonder if it will be harder for me. I feel like other holidays will have more of an impact on me since we’ve already started a tradition without kids in mind, whereas we have not with other holidays. I guess we will see. If we did ever decide to stay home, I doubt we’d have too many kids come to the door because of how rural our area is.
Hi Emily – I like that you dress up and go out – I might try it next year . That’s something I miss – not getting the chance to dress up with my children. – how did it go for you this year. Hope you were OK.
In our younger days we would get involved. Decorate our car trunk at a church, go to a church party and pass out candy, , dress up at work, borrow a child to dress up…during infertility you can become bitter or better.
Now that my husband is passed I live in a gated community which means no trick or treaters. How I miss having those little ones come to my door.
When my Mom was alive we had to move her to an Assisted Living and they had Halloween parties…passing out candy to little kids that came dressed, games like cake walks, Bingo, hot dogs, nachos etc
It was all fun.
Now I go to the gym and just come home.
You never know what you will miss until you dont have it.
My husband and I go out for dinner and see a horror movie. This year it’s going to be Countdown.
I actually like Halloween and look forward to trick or treaters but trunk or treat really ruined it for me. Now the kids don’t come around anymore. It’s just one more thing I’m excluded from due to infertility.
We have our own tradition of sitting on the front steps carving pumpkins, pigging out on candy and watching horror movies.
This year I’m starting a new tradition to make up for the lack of kids. I’m going to dress my dogs up and take them to the old folks home down the street. They always put a sign out saying “we have candy.” I bet the Mom Squad ignores them too and that makes me sad. So I’m bringing the dogs because that will make them happy and that will make me happy. It’s a win–win.
I totally agree with this. Not being a parent, I do not feel welcome at Trunk or Treat (though if I were a parent, I would still hate this new trend because there is nothing spooky cool about a car trunk in daylight). It is sad how many people this now excludes, including singles, pre-kid couples, childless or childfree, and older people.
One more thing…
What is with these parents that want to change the date of Halloween?!? OMG!!! Halloween comes when it comes (rain or shine) just let it be! The stupid ideas the squad comes up with (and the local news entertains) just drives me nuts!!!!!
I agree, Livy! — one of my lasting memories of Halloween from childhood is slogging my way through snowdrifts during a snowstorm… Got to get that candy!! lol
I never went out of my way to avoid Halloween; I always loved handing out candy & seeing all the excited little trick or treaters at my door… but yes, some years it could be painful. Now we live in a condo & don’t get any kids at our door. Makes me sad — just one more thing I can’t be part of, even peripherally. Our first great-nephew is due any day now, and I am hoping that in the next few years, his parents will bring him by on Halloween to get some goodies. 🙂