This week’s Whiny Wednesday topic was suggested by a reader:
Fearing the quiet we will have for years.
She was concerned that not having children would leave her life and house too quiet and empty. How do you feel about this? Is it something you worry about? If not, what is on your mind this week?
This is what frightens me about being childless. As my parents aged, my brothers and I took care of them. My brothers would make certain that their yard was taken care of, any repairs to the house were handled, doctors appointments scheduled and transported to, etc. When the time came, one of my bothers took over the responsibility to make certain they were moved into an assisted living facility and that all their financial matters were taken care of.
My husband is 12 years older than me. When he dies, I will be alone. My brothers all have families of their own. I have no one. How do I keep from becoming isolated? How will I care for myself as I age? How will I insure I don’t become a victim of scams or abuse? What happens if I’m injured in my home and no one is there to find me?
This TERRIFIES me. I try to stay optimistic, and plan well for the future, but the fear is still there. And growing…..
I know exactly how you feel. I take it day by day but I’m terrified too.
Healing takes time… I am 55 years young and I still ask myself why I was not able to conceive…
I’ve wondered about the quiet. Sometimes I’m thankful for it. I know moms would probably envy my flexible time, ability to nap, ability to get chores done unhindered, etc. But all the same, it can get lonely. I have my four-legged kids to keep me company, and try to do something with them every day (training, walks, etc.) to fill the void a bit, but I know it will never be the same. I try to look on the positive side, and not focus on what I’m missing. Often just when I’m feeling good and like I’ve got a handle on the grief and sadness, something happens that sends me reeling again. I imagine it will be like that for a long time.