Life Without Baby

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Whiny Wednesday: We’re Back!

Whiny_WednesdayIt’s the first Whiny Wednesday of 2014 and it feels like weeks since we had the chance for a good vent.

If you’ve been saving up your holiday gripes, or if you have a shiny set of new gripes for this year, bring it on, my friends!

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  1. My whine for today is about all the recent articles on social media to do with “moms”. I have lots of friends with kids, and at this moment, I have my 4 1/2 year old neice living with my husband and I. When I look on FB, I love to see new and old friends and see what they are up too. But what I don’t like, is all the articles and or quizzes on how to be the best mom, how to love your body after kids, what type of good mom are you… blah blah blah. How about I post how to be a sexy non-mom, how I have more freedom than all the moms, how I can vacation better and shop more than the moms out there can?! It’s annoying and I hate having to pass them up filling up my news feed. Don’t get me wrong, I love all my moms out there… but sharing the articles non stop and filling out the quizzes and then having a ton of comments that are filling up the feed is annoying. Okay, I’m done whining about that! 😉 thanks ladies!

    • I can relate to that. I have a FB friend who heads up a popular “mom’s group”. And it’s always, “come to our meeting tonight to samples fun recipes that kids will love.” or “come join us for a glass of wine and escape the holiday pressures that mom’s face.”

      I mean, I get it – moms want to vent and relax with other moms. It’s a target group. I guess it just bugs me because of all the great women in the group getting to socialize and do these fun things. I’m not included because it’s posted loud and clear, “mom, mom, mom.” The less whiney thing to do would be to set up my own group that includes woman of all walks.

      The jerk in me wants to start a “non-mom social club.” I’d put things like, join us tonight as we discuss Downton Abbey.” People would reply, sounds like fun. Looking forward to it. Then I could say, “actually, this group is for women who don’t have children.”

      Believe me – I’d be the jerk and no one would understand that I’m simply excluding women as they exclude me.

      • I think you should start it, too! Because… with a group that includes all women, the women who are mothers will talk about mother stuff and then the minority non-moms will sit there with stiff smiles plastered on our faces the way WE ALWAYS DO because we have nothing to contribute to those conversations.

        Why NOT a non-mom group? To get together and support each other and drink wine and talk about the stresses that we non-moms face during the stressful holiday season?

        You want to talk whiny, I’m strongly resisting the urge to end this comment with “screw them!” and look, I think I did.

      • I’d love to come too, so much more relaxing to have a social occasion where I know nobody will ask me if I have kids!

  2. I’m tired of seeing all the pics on my facebook feed of how there will be a ton of new babies in 9 months following this crazy cold weather we’ve been having.

  3. Im new to this so Im assuming I just whine about something bugging me? Whats with all these parents that HATE their kids! It’s shocking how people respond to me when they find out I don’t have kids. Here’s a few examples…
    Them:Do you have kids?
    Me:No
    Them:
    -GOOD!
    -want mine?
    -dont do it, trust me
    -must be nice
    -seriously, do you want mine?

    I dont understand what is happening! These are the same people that post every day on FB how much they love their kids (btw I deleted FB and couldn’t be happier!) I’m so confused! Do they really hate their kids? Are they trying to make me feel better by downplaying being a parent? Or do they want me to tell them how lucky they are so they can roll their eyes at me and INSIST its horrible (as they stroke their childs head lovingly). My BIL actually asked me to trade his son for my dog!
    Thanks guys, that felt good

  4. My whine is that I had to spend two weeks biting my tongue around my sisters-in-law. One of them thinks that she is the world’s best mother, would have been an amazing child psychologist, and that she has an amazing relationship with her two (very intelligent) children. And tells me about it all the time. Yet I’ve seen evidence that she won’t let her (now adult) daughter grow up, babies the son and won’t seek help for a behaviour problem, and allows and supports racist and sexist jokes. And she’s incredibly judgemental about the other sister-in-law’s relationship with her children. Other sister-in-law says things in front of the kids about the kids that make me shudder, but at least doesn’t think she’s the world’s best mother.

    And I just have to bite my tongue, mostly, or gently put an alternative way of looking at things. And try not to roll my eyes. I’m not sure I succeed all the time!

  5. I recently saw a Tim Hortons commercial with a hockey theme, starring Sidney Crosby, which reminded me that the Olympics are only about a month away. I love the commercial right now — but ask me again in another month after a gazillion viewings. ; )

    And then I ran across an article which reminded me that this is probably not the only ad I’m going to be sick of, & in fact, probably the least of my worries.

    http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2014/01/06/thank-you-mom-sochi-ad_n_4548505.html

    Get ready for another onslaught of commercials along the theme of “thanks Mom.” Moms were big news at the last Olympics and it sounds like these next games will be more of the same. Gag. :p

    • I just about threw up when I saw that ad as well. I wish the Dads also piped up asking what that is about. Haven’t seen the ad anywhere else though and am hoping it is done.

    • I agree about those annoying “mom glorifying” olympic commercials. YICK!! There is one, put out by Canadian Tire that shows ALL the people involved in making a hockey star (Jonathan Toews from the Chicago Blackhawks in this case) that essentially says ” it takes a village to raise a star”. Quite refreshing I thought. I wish I could find the link!