Life Without Baby

filling the silence in the motherhood discussion

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  1. I took my mom with me to Seattle for 3.5 days while I worked a little and visited my sister and her 10 1/2 month old baby. This is the first grandchild on my moms side. Being child free not by choice I really enjoy him, and have become closer to my sister since she had become pregnant and had her baby. My mom doesn’t care to drive the 4 hours so I thought it would be nice to help out, and spend some time with her. It was the most annoying trip! I hate to say that but if you had been there, you would have agreed :). One morning at breakfast we were talking about my grandmother who is in an assisted living home, and about my nephew, as well as family and friends that have lived with my husband in the past. I told her I was done having anyone live with my husband and I and that we like our two family life. What she said next brought me to disbelief as well as a second mimosa!! She asked if I would let her move in with me when she gets older, I said no. I told her that with her choice of life style and what she is comfortable with she would be better off with her and her husband, or just her in a nice home. She told me, “that’s the reason I had children” (there are us 2 sisters) I starred at her in disbelief that she of all people would say that to me?!? My comment was, since I couldn’t and do not have children,no one will take care of me when I get older?!? So having children means you have them to take care of you when your old? Like that’s their job?! I don’t agree. And her saying that to me made me filled with emotions! Let’s just say I won’t be offering up a free trip anytime soon! 🙂

    • Oh no Heather – I’m sorry she said that to you! I”m sorry she said that out loud!!! – I find it very difficult to be close to anyone who has a baby, but like you I am close with my sister and her baby. Watching them together does brings me some sadness, but mostly joy. – I see a solo trip the next time!! lol…

  2. I know that we don’t children for a lot of (very good) reasons, but between the recent pregnancies announcements from close (younger) friends and all the pictures of adorable Prince George, I am having some intense baby envy. Actually mentioned to my husband last weekend that I discovered some fertility clinics will still take us on (with donated eggs) for three more years, so I still have time. AACK! Get me off this crazy train!