Life Without Baby

filling the silence in the motherhood discussion

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  1. Its the way valentines is shoved in your face that annoys me and I think its just a racket to make money and its hurtful to single people and divorced and widows and of course the unhappily married as it shoves in their face the things they have lost out on in life and that hurts!

  2. In Sweden Valentine’s day isn’t such a big thing, and even if it was, it would still be my beloved grandmother’s birthday more than anything else, so it doesn’t bother me.
    And this year we will be on vacation in Turkey that day, so it feels extra nice. I don’t know how big it is celebrated here, so it will be interesting to see.

  3. My wedding anniversary is 2/10 so I always give my husband a pass for Valentine’s Day and that’s fine with me. Although one year, we sat on a bench and watched people running around with different gifts and expressions on their faces (nervous, excited, apathetic, angry and happy). The best people watching is at the supermarket after work on Valentine’s Day – you will see long lines of grumpy men buying last minute gifts. It’s really a silly holiday.

  4. My husband and I are going away for the weekend. One of the perks of not having children. It does annoy me that people with kids always make the day all about their kids. Can’t we have a holiday that doesn’t revolve around kids? Ugh!! One other note is I do see a lot of couples once they have kids, forget about their spouses on Valentine’s Day. It’s sad and unfortunate. That should a day to express your love for your spouse of significant other.

  5. Off topic but my whine is completely dropping the ball when trying to help a friend who is struggling with not being pregnant .
    I was so caught off gaurd although I had my suspicions. (Yes I am even mad at myself for suspecting she was having issues)
    Anyway I dropped the ball, I don’t think I said enough and even the right things. So I’m kicking myself.

  6. Can’t we have a day that doesn’t revolve about couples. Can we please have a day that lets us celebrate ourselves. Or friendships. To me, Valentine’s day is even worse than mother’s day because even though I may not have children I do have a mum and I love her so it’s fine with me to honour her on mother’s day but on Valentine’s day I am truly made to feel like a looser just for not being in a relationship.
    And no same as I don’t want to hear the great stuff your children did for you on mother’s day, I actually don’t want to hear about the lovely stuff you did with your partner for Valentine’s day (unless you are a very close friend). and specially not here. This is whiny wednesdy not “celebrate-that-me-and-my-hubby-are-a-family-of-two”-wednesday.

    That, girls, is a proper Valentine’s day whine.

  7. My husband and I are high school sweethearts. His birthday was yesterday and mine is in two and a half weeks. In high school we didn’t have the money to do birthdays and Valentine’s Day so we opted out. Even after we got married and there was more money we never picked up the holiday. When my mom got onto him about it, he responded to her with “The way you say I should show my love to your daughter on Valentine’s Day is how I’m suppose to love her everyday.” Yeah that shut my mom up and scored points with her all at the same time. 🙂

    • That’s it why only do things just because its valentines day as I think that’s silly and you should do things because you want to not because of silly valentines day!

  9. They should have a congratulations for having the courage to stay away from a cheating/lazy/ abusive partner/ I’m better off single day for the single people who won’t put up with being treated badly by a partner

  10. My personal view is that I think days like valentines and mothers and fathers days and thanksgiving and Christmas are just plain old cruel to lonely people having a constant steam of staged happiness shoved in their faces all the time and many years ago we had all gone to work one Monday morning after valentines weekend and the line manager had called us all to an emergency meeting as he had some very bad news and I had thought a member of staff had died but it was worse her son from her first marriage who had recently gone through divorce had committed suicide over that valentines weekend which I feel had been caused by the cruelty of the parade of staged happiness constantly shoved in his face as when you have had a loss it always feels like the thing you lost is shoved in your face at every turn. And for mothers day well that’s another story!

  11. When I was in my teens and 20s, I was never in a good place to celebrate with my special someone. So, I developed a dislike for the holiday. I am married to someone who did not grow up in the West, so does not have an attachment to these holidays. And I now consider that a blessing. It makes them all less important. Yesterday, I had a nice time out with friends, and we forgot all about Valentine’s day.