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Three Things You Love About You

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By Lisa Manterfield

Valentine’s Day can be challenging, full of triggers and missed experiences and what-ifs. So as thoughts turn to love this week, I want to ask you the same question I ask every year around this time:

“What are three things you love about yourself?”

A friend asked me this once, and I was shocked to find myself stumbling over my answer. I couldn’t even name one thing.

I think many us (especially we women) were raised to be modest, not boastful. We often have no problem telling someone else what we admire in them, but can’t then turn the spotlight on ourselves. And even when we do, we can so often point out all the areas for improvement rather than the good things we see in ourselves.

Fortunately for me, my friend is persistent, and she wouldn’t let me off the hook. So here are three things I love about myself:

      1. I’m honest.
      2. I will always stick up for the underdog.
      3. I am not a quitter.

So I challenge you now. What are three things you love about yourself?

Comments

  2. 1) I have a way of looking at things with a different perspective, finding the bright sides.

    2) I love my family fiercely. (And I love that, to me, family includes fur babies, our exchange daughter, nieces, nephews, friends, and many more…)

    3) I’m getting out of my comfort zone and trying new things in 2018.

    Thank you for making me think about this, Lisa. I’ve felt a little down today, and this made me realize that there are some pretty awesome things about me! 🙂

    • “2) I love my family fiercely.” And I love mine too. When someone asked me, “Don’t you want a family of your own?” I replied, “I have a family of my own. I have my mom, my dad, my brother and his wife, my husband, and my nieces, and nephews. That’s my family”.

  4. 1. I’m funny and delight in making my loved ones laugh
    2. I’m very caring and nurturing
    3. I enjoy showing love by cooking for people.
    My biggest challenge is to love and forgive myself despite having a body that betrayed me. Sending you all strength and grace.

  5. I have more than 3 !!!!

    1. Resilient
    2. Dependable
    3. Hopeful
    4. Prayer warrior
    5. Love others
    6. Compassionate
    7. ….

    • I love that you have more than 3, Analia! I actually thought of two quickly and then had to take some time to come up with a third thing I love about me. You are awesome to embrace the fabulous qualities that you have! You helped me add a few to my list… 🙂

  6. I love that i am strong enough to get through the bad times, i love that im honest about how I feel during the bad times in a way that stands up for myself & i’m inspiring others….god I’m f$#€£¥$ amazing

  7. I. I smile and laugh a lot
    2. I am compassionate
    3. I keep going when I don’t think I can – suffering 17 years TTC though – I see that the strength now is walking away and letting go.