Last week, Tracey at La Belette Rouge tackled the question, “Why Don’t You Just Adopt?” She asked me if I’d be willing to contribute my thoughts on the topic. Her innocent request resulted in a six-page diatribe in my journal!
Of all the thoughtless questions we childless and childfree folks are asked, this has to be among the most insensitive and least thought through. I’m always left feeling as if the person asking the question is judging me as some kind of lesser human being because I thoroughly researched all the options, weighed the odds, factored in the condition of my already broken heart, and made an educated decision that adoption wasn’t right for me.
As I say, I have another six pages of discussion to add to this topic, but I contributed a more concise one-page version to Tracey.
What do you say when someone asks this question? And what would you like to say if you weren’t so well brought up?